The Real Reason You Feel Lost After Sports

Let’s cut to it:

Retired athletes and coaches are out here silently drowning.

Not because they’re weak.

Because they were trained to be strong, forever.

And now?

They’re stuck in a life that no longer fits, asking questions they were never taught how to answer.

“What’s next?”

“Why don’t I feel like myself anymore?”

“Why does everything I try feel…off?”

If that’s you, welcome. You’re not broken. You’re just in transition.

Let’s solve it.

Problem #1: “I Feel Lost. I Don’t Know Who I Am Without Sports.”

Truth Bomb: Up to 80% of retired athletes report feeling lost or directionless after retirement. Not because they’re lazy or unmotivated but because they never planned for this chapter.

They planned for performance.

Not reinvention.

The Fix:

Instead of rushing into the next job, title, or identity. PAUSE.

Ask yourself:

When have I felt most fulfilled outside of sports?
What would an ideal work and personal day look like?
Who do I want to be around?

Problem #2: Burnout Disguised as Boredom

You’re not lazy.

You’re not unmotivated.

You’re just burned the hell out from a system that trained you to ignore your own needs for years.

And now, sitting still feels deeply uncomfortable.

Rest feels like failure.

Freedom feels like “I’m doing something wrong.”

The Fix:

Call it what it is: burnout.

You don’t need another hustle. You need recovery.

Athletes are elite at following a plan. So give yourself one:

Recovery = Rest + Reflection + Redirection

From Burnout to Breakthrough

I didn’t realize I was seeking external validation until I hit my breaking point.

After sports, I dove headfirst into coaching. Then corporate.

Said yes to everything. Took on every responsibility.

From the outside? I was “crushing it.”

But inside? I was exhausted, disconnected, and had no idea who I was anymore.

What saved me wasn’t one big moment. It was a series of quiet, intentional choices:

I pivoted careers and learned new skills.
I started journaling and meditating to reconnect with my own mind and soul.
I read books, listened to podcasts to understand my emotions instead of avoiding them.
I changed my environment. Moved. Slowed down.
And most importantly, I got brutally honest about what I wanted my life to feel like.

That’s the real work.

Problem #3: The Skills You Had Don’t Translate to What You Want Now

You’re teaching lessons, working in admin but something’s off. You’re good at it, but you don’t feel alive.

You miss purpose.

You miss creation.

You miss connection.

The Fix:

Here’s the truth: The problem isn’t the job.

It’s that you’re using skills from your old self to try and build a new life.

It won’t work.

Here’s what I did:

I went from college coaching to creating content and building my dream life in Colombia. Not overnight but through experimentation.

📍Your move: Pick ONE experiment this month:

Shadow someone in a field you’re curious about
Launch a side hustle for $0 using AI
Tell your story on video (even once)

Problem #4: Nobody Talks About Post-Athlete Mental Health. So You Don’t Either.

Depression. Anxiety. Addiction.

Nobody prepared you for that post-retirement.

And because you were the strong one: the coach, the leader, the MVP. You don’t know how to say:

“I’m struggling.”

The Fix:

You don’t need a crisis to get help.

You need a space that gets you.

Problem #5: You Keep Thinking Clarity Comes From Thinking

It doesn’t.

Clarity comes from action.

Even the wrong kind.

The people who win after sports aren’t the ones with the best plan they’re the ones who keep experimenting until something sticks.

So What’s the Real Play?

Let’s summarize:

Problem

Lost Identity
Burnout
Wrong Fit
Silence Around Mental Health
Otherthinking

Solution

Start with reflection
Rest and rewire what’s important
Experiment until you feel purpose
Join safe spaces with like-minded people
Take messy, meaningful action

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